Often, this comes from: Growing up where your needs weren’t voiced or met, so you learned to suppress them Believing love means instinctively knowing what the other person wants Fearing rejection if you’re too direct Feeling unworthy of asking for what you need It’s not that you’re “too needy.” It’s that your nervous system has paired love with silence.

This kind of guilt often shows up when: You set a boundary and someone reacts with disappointment You say no, and the other person tries to convince you you’re selfish Someone uses past sacrifices as leverage for your present choices You feel responsible for someone else’s emotions -when deep down, you know you shouldn’t This isn’t guilt you generated. It’s guilt that’s been projected onto you.

"Why can’t I just say no?” If you’ve asked yourself this, you’re not alone. Saying no can feel heavy, sticky—even impossible. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means at some point, your nervous system learned that saying yes was safer.

“Why didn’t I do something? Why didn’t I say something?” If you’ve ever replayed a difficult moment and asked yourself these questions, you’re not alone. And you didn’t fail. You froze. Freezing isn’t weakness. It isn’t inaction. It’s your body protecting you.

You were never meant to carry the emotional temperature of every room you walk into. You know how to keep the peace. How to say the right thing. How to soothe someone else’s discomfort—even at the cost of your own. You’re tuned in. Responsive. Empathic. And exhausted. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. And you’re not doing anything wrong. You may have just learned, somewhere along the way, that other people’s feelings were your responsibility. But that comes at a c

Sometimes the hardest part of therapy isn’t opening up—it’s the fear that if you do, you’ll be judged. You might wonder: What if it’s too much? What if I don’t make sense? What if they think I’m failing? If that’s you, I want you to know this: I’m not here to judge what you’re carrying. I’m here to hold space for it.

We’re often told that rest is good for us. That slowing down is essential.But if you’ve ever tried to actually rest—and ended up feeling more unsettled than calm—you’re not alone. In therapy, I often hear versions of the same thing:“I finally got a moment to myself… and I couldn’t relax.”“I sat down and felt guilty, like I should be doing something.”

Many of us respond to emotional pain by trying to understand it rather than actually feel it. When something hurts, our first instinct might

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