I Won’t Be Judging What You’re Carrying (And Here’s Why That Matters)

Sometimes the hardest part of therapy isn’t opening up—it’s the fear that if you do, you’ll be judged.

You might wonder:

• What if it’s too much?

• What if I don’t make sense?

• What if they think I’m failing?

If that’s you, I want you to know this: I’m not here to judge what you’re carrying. I’m here to hold space for it.

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Where That Fear Comes From

Many of us have been taught—directly or indirectly—to keep it all together. To smile when we’re breaking. To get on with it. To only show the “acceptable” parts of ourselves.

If you’ve been the strong one… the fixer… the one who copes…

Letting that mask slip can feel terrifying. You might not be used to being on the receiving end of compassion. Especially when things feel messy, complicated, or raw.

But therapy isn’t about presenting a polished version of yourself. It’s about being honest. And honesty is allowed to be tangled, uncertain, and emotional.

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What Therapy Is Really For

When you walk into the therapy room—whether that’s in person or on Zoom—you don’t need to explain yourself perfectly. You don’t need to be articulate, composed, or insightful.

You can cry. You can go quiet. You can rant, ramble, swear, or laugh nervously. All of that is welcome.

I’m not sitting here waiting for you to make sense. I’m sitting with you to make space for whatever you’re carrying—no matter how heavy, how confusing, or how long you’ve held it.

What I See Instead of ‘Too Much’

When you share something painful, I don’t think:

• That’s a mess.

• That’s too much.

• That’s broken.

I see someone trying their best with the tools they’ve had.

I see someone who’s survived things that weren’t fair.

I see strength that’s been quiet for a long time.

I see patterns that once protected you, even if they don’t serve you now.

In short: I see you.

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You Don’t Have to Tidy Yourself Up First

Therapy doesn’t ask you to be “sorted.”

You don’t have to untangle everything before you arrive.

You don’t need to justify why something feels hard. If it feels hard, that’s enough.

What you’re carrying might feel like too much for you right now.

But it’s not too much for me to sit with you in it.

And sometimes, that’s where healing begins.

If you’re feeling the weight of what you’re carrying and wondering whether therapy might help—you're not alone. I offer a calm, supportive space where you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re welcome just as you are.

You can find out more or book a free phone chat here.