A few decades ago, therapy had a reputation. People would share something painful, complicated, or deeply personal and eventually hear: "And how does that make you feel?" The question became so associated with therapy that it found its way into films, television, and comedy sketches. These days, I wonder if we've found a new version of it. "Where do you feel that in your body?"

In therapy, it’s common to hear phrases like “let’s slow down for a moment” or “can we pause and stay with that feeling?” For some people, these invitations are helpful. Slowing down can make space for reflection and allow emotions to surface more clearly. But for many neurodiverse people, being asked to slow down in therapy can feel confusing, frustrating, or even slightly alienating.