A few decades ago, therapy had a reputation. People would share something painful, complicated, or deeply personal and eventually hear: "And how does that make you feel?" The question became so associated with therapy that it found its way into films, television, and comedy sketches. These days, I wonder if we've found a new version of it. "Where do you feel that in your body?"

Many of us respond to emotional pain by trying to understand it rather than actually feel it. When something hurts, our first instinct might