A few decades ago, therapy had a reputation. People would share something painful, complicated, or deeply personal and eventually hear: "And how does that make you feel?" The question became so associated with therapy that it found its way into films, television, and comedy sketches. These days, I wonder if we've found a new version of it. "Where do you feel that in your body?"

“Trust the process.” It’s one of those phrases that gets said a lot in therapy spaces. It sounds wise. Reassuring. Almost spiritual. And sometimes, it can be helpful. A woman sitting on a couch, gesturing expressively while reading and discussing the contents of a large open book. But I won’t say it to you as a blanket statement. Not when you’re in the middle of something that feels confusing, painful, or uncertain. Because when you’re struggling, “trust the process” can land